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What’s Your Perspective?

Yesterday was a very windy day at the Hollywood Beach in Florida. I experienced Mother Nature’s ferocity while being repeatedly whipped by her gusts and blasted by her sand. Until I changed my perspective.

I decided to reframe my circumstances in that moment: instead of feeling the wind thrashing me, I imagined the wind caressing me. Immediately I felt calmer, more peaceful, cared for, and content. Amazing.

When a gust of wind sent sand flying my way, I laughed and imagined being the recipient of a very special massage.

Struck by a BFO (blinding flash of the obvious), I realized that changing my perspective – and thus my experience – was simply a thought away.

I asked myself (and now you), “How and where might changing our perspectives bring more joy into our lives?” I first considered several people in my life. Might it be equally easy to shift my perspective about them and, in turn, create even more enjoyable relationships? Of course! I do it whenever I practice the Revolutionary Agreement “to see the best in myself and others.”

What about troubling circumstances? To shift my perspective about those, I realize all I need to do is apply the Agreement “to look for blessings in disguise.” Could it be that simple? Why not?

Are you a Pollyanna?

One hundred years ago, Eleanor Porter brought 12-year old Pollyanna to life. Years later, someone twisted Pollyanna’s gift of infectious optimism into a perversely negative connotation. Now we often hear people say with scorn, “Don’t be such a Pollyanna.”

My contention is that the world needs more, not less Pollyannas.

The character of Pollyanna is neither blindly optimistic nor without struggle. Instead, she is a model of living two of the Revolutionary Agreements: seeing blessings in disguise in the midst of adversity, and seeing the best in others—releasing the light and love buried in the hearts of even her most crotchety community members. (You can enjoy her book free online:

Sailing with Dad circa 1967

I knew someone like Pollyanna in real life: my dad. He rose above seemingly insurmountable struggles to become a beacon of light for all those who were blessed by his presence. And today, on Father’s day, I honor him with all my heart.

“Honest Abe” was a model of positive thinking in action. Because I never heard him complain, I had no idea what a challenging life he had had until his sister sat me down to tell me some stories when I was in my thirties.

Partnering for Love and Money


Let’s face it. Love and money are two things everyone wants — except that we love love and when we think about money, sometimes it’s paired with the word “evil.”

I remember how uncomfortable I used to be about being prosperous. I would make myself feel better by justifying all the hard work I did to earn that money. How many people I served. How much of that money I contributed to good causes.

Then one day while paying a cashier in a grocery store, I had an epiphany. My money just paid her. It paid the people whose farm produced the food I just bought. It paid the workers who tended and harvested, cleaned and prepared the vegetables for shipping; it paid the truckers and the shelf stockers. With that small exchange, I was contributing to countless people along the way who got the food from the farm to the grocer to me.

I realized that whether I’m buying food or a luxury item, I get to thank numerous people for their creativity and hard work by exchanging money for their time and talents. I was elated! At that moment, I knew it wasn’t love of money that is “evil”; it’s stopping the flow of money that does not serve anyone. Including the flow to (and then through) me.

Transforming Relationships — Simple!


My brother recently spent the night at our condo on Hollywood Beach in Florida. When he entered the bathroom to shower, he discovered my Kindle lying near the sink. He quickly came out to say, “You shouldn’t keep your Kindle in the bathroom. The steam could ruin it.”

I said, “Ok.” He asked, “Where do you want me to put it?” I replied, “On my dresser.”

Seems simple enough, yes? So why has this replayed in my mind several times since?

Because my response to Stephen was unusual. Highly unusual. For most of our lives, the interaction would have sounded more like this:

“You shouldn’t keep your Kindle in the bathroom. The steam could ruin it.”
“No it won’t.”
“Yes it will.”
(As our voices elevate, they take on that singsong “I’m right, you’re wrong” tone.)
“I’ve kept that Kindle in the bathroom for three years and it hasn’t been a problem yet!”
“You’ll see (I’m right).”

In the past, I would have expected an antagonistic exchange with my brother (and then would have met my expectations, by golly.) But this time I felt differently. I felt no animosity, no need to prove I was “right” even though I knew I would return my Kindle to the bathroom after he left.



StressLESS this holiday season
and throughout the New Year!

Do you ever find yourself reacting negatively and emotionally to what someone says or does (especially someone close to you)?

Would you like to know how to disconnect from negative reactions immediately – and restore relationships with ease?

Enjoy this lively conversation with Liz Sterling, host of Sterling Spin radio, as we share ways to make the holidays – and every day – less stressful by playing T.A.G.:  Truth, Acceptance, and Gratitude.

I loved the interview. It reminded me to enhance the precious moments I have with my beautiful family by accepting any differences, trusting the flow and being so much more grateful for having them in my life.
Laura Whittemore, Author, Speaker, Life & Relationship Coach

In less than 30 minutes, learn how to:

  • instantly remove “triggers” that cause you emotional upsets
  • transform inner/outer shouting matches with loved ones into peaceful, loving conversations
  • bring out the best in everyone around you (including yourself)!

Download the mp3 and give it time to open. Make a cup of tea (optional). Then put your feet up, relax, and learn how to enjoy great relationships during the holidays and forever more by playing T.A.G.

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