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Who am I?

Recently I had the privilege of speaking at an eWomen Network dinner. During the “Accelerated Networking” portion of our evening, ten women at each table took one minute each to answer four questions, the first of which was “Who are You?” In this business setting, I gave my business answer: “I am the owner of a wellness business that offers specific strategies to people who want healthy bodies, healthy finances and healthy relationships.”

But this is not who I am.

I am increasingly uncomfortable with defining myself by what I do. Grappling with this dilemma especially since Revolutionary Agreements was published, I feel uneasy when asked for my bio to define who I am. While it is true that I have accomplished all on that list, I am not my achievements. So who am I? And how do I answer the question, “What do you do?” when I am less interested in defining myself by my past and more interested in simply being present in the moment.

Heading off to a gathering where I was looking forward to making new friends, I realized that I would not be able to avoid being asked, “What do you do?”

“I am a writer.” “I am a wellness consultant.” “I’m the mom of an awesome teenage son.” “I’m a member of …, on the board of…., in the choir of…“I am… I am… I am…. Arrrrgh! While all of these reflect my interests, I am none of them! Yearning to be liberated from labels and freed to create myself anew in any moment, an emotional inburst erupted into this writing:


“What do you do?”

In the past I knew.
A few words told all.
Day in and out
the same.

Simple,
easy to explain,
and impressive, too!

Now no answer
makes any sense
or worse…

Been there, done that
and now,
Tao.

Doing less, being more.
No words describe the bliss;
the juicy mystery of the unknown
has become my chosen path.

So to answer your question
I’m just being as is
and is…
and is…
and is…
or not.

And I don’t mean to be rude.


Perhaps I will discover a new way to express who I am as beautifully as my friend and colleague, Teri. When asked “Who are you?” she might reply, “I am a devoted wife, mother and friend who blesses family, friends and people I meet with the gift of growing older with grace, hope and financial health.” Beautifully weaving her personal and business mission with her feelings about life, she offers us a model to follow as the New Year approaches.

At the end of this month I have set aside time to reflect on 2006 and create my vision board (aka dream board, treasure map) for 2007. Until that time and on that day I invite my heart, mind and soul to playfully explore “Who am I?” and “What do I do?” reminding myself that whatever answers appear are perfect for right now.

Won’t you join me?

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